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Memories of Mom on Thanksgiving

Memories of Mom on Thanksgiving

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Why do some seasons remind us of stories about the people in our lives? On Thanksgiving, I can’t help but think of my mother.

Not many holidays go by without fond memories of my mother. Sometimes those thoughts come like a gentle wind, and other times they still surprise me like a Texas thunderstorm.

Very few holidays passed in my life without mother being involved in some way. And even though we lived hundreds of miles away from her for over two decades, she was always intimately involved in my family’s life until her untimely death a few years ago.

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Connection. Mother kept our extended family connected when we moved away from our hometown. Even when we were annoyed by her pressure to share holidays, she remained a unifying force in our family. She kept us up-to-date with family news, and I miss that connection now.

Since Mother’s death, I do not take the time to regularly visit my extended family. But we still stay in touch by phone, e-mail, and Internet social networks now. I think Mother would be pleased with our “Facebooks”!

Roots. Memories of Mother continue to connect us all to our Texas roots and family.

After Thanksgiving, I’m traveling back to my hometown. I’ve been invited to speak at an event for the women of the church that I attended as a child. I hope to visit some old friends and family there.

And I’m sure we’ll tell some of the stories that matter most.

Who tells the stories in your family? Will you see your family storyteller during the holidays? 

Thanksgiving and Food

Thanksgiving and Food

DSCN2436 - Version 2“If you decide for God, living a life of God-worship, it follows that you don’t fuss about what’s on the table at mealtimes . . . ” (Matthew 6:25 MSG).

Food, food, food! Why does everyone make such a big fuss about food during the holidays? I’m always focused on food! Either I’m overeating, dieting, or trying to feed someone else. I can’t remember one day of my life that I didn’t focus on food at some point.

So, how can my worries about food help my spiritual focus? Over the years, I’ve discovered that my hyper-focus on food is often a warning sign for a much deeper problem than just trying to meet my physical needs.

Needs. While we were seminary students, I first learned how my own worry about food could actually motivate me to seek some deeper spiritual insights into my problem.

As seminary students, we lived on a much lower income than most of our family and friends at that time. Sometimes we didn’t even have enough money for the food that we needed for our family.

Miracles. God used that problem to capture my attention, as I saw Him provide in miraculous ways for some of my friends. Groceries would be left on their doorsteps. Money for food would arrive in the mail. Or they would discover some random source of free food, like day-old bread or vegetables available from the grocery’s produce department.

Tips. Intrigued by my friends’ stories, I began to ask to God for help me find ways to deal with our food crises. And I discovered many tips for stretching my food budget with recipe ideas and coupons. My friends and I found that we could all stretch our food budgets by sharing our resources. When we gathered together for a meal, each family would bring their menu contributions.

Manna and quail. In Exodus 16:4, “God said to Moses, ‘I’m going to rain bread down from the skies for you. The people will go out and gather each day’s ration. I’m going to test them to see if they’ll live according to my Teaching or not’” (NLT).

I joked at times about identifying with the Israelites in the wilderness as God provided manna and quail for them to eat. But as I experienced God’s providing for my own family, like He did for His children in the Old Testament, I searched for more answers to my everyday problems in the Bible.

Traditions. Before my seminary days, I never thought about asking God to provide for my family’s needs, especially our food. Yes, we taught our children to express their thanks before our meals. But my prayer of thanks usually came after I had purchased groceries and prepared our meals.

So, I examined our mealtime prayers and Thanksgiving blessings. Could they simply be a family or religious tradition? Had I ever offered my mealtime prayers with a heartfelt gratitude for God’s blessings?

Diets. I still struggle with worry and my spiritual focus in the area of food from time to time. Even now, as I try to eat a healthier diet, I realize that I must stop and ask God for direction every day–sometimes moment-by-moment–as I seek answers to my problems and needs in this area of my life.

So, as I prepare to enter into this season of Thanksgiving once again, I pray that I will remember this promise from God’s Word.

“… The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Phil. 4:5-7 NIV).<

Facing our Personal Insecurities and Limitations

Facing our Personal Insecurities and Limitations

DSC_0430 - Version 2I don’t have what it takes!

I must confess, that excuse crossed my mind many times as I consider writing for publication, teaching writing, and (now) speaking to Christian women?

What can I do to overcome my insecurities?

Read about how I faced my personal insecurities in my post today in A Common Bond

[Click here to read my post on a Common Bond.]

How do you overcome your personal insecurities and limitation? Leave your comments below. I’d love to hear your story!

Fear of rejection and failure?

Fear of rejection and failure?

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“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up” (Thomas A. Edison).

Do you see rejection as failure? Failure often points us toward changes in our direction and priorities.

C. S. Lewis explained, “Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement.”

Finding the courage to risk failure requires us to be vulnerable.

Recently, I shared some of my thoughts on failure and vulnerability on the WordServe Water Cooler.

Click here to read my post on the WordServe Water Cooler.

What lessons have you learned about failure and vulnerability? Leave your comments below. I’d love to hear from you!

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Building Legacies: 5 Regrets to Consider

Building Legacies: 5 Regrets to Consider

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In this guest post, Darren Dake and Anita Brooks, discuss some questions to consider about leaving a legacy on their podcast, Engaging Life and Leadership.

Most of us have heard about the dash on our tombstone. But have you given thought to the shape it’s taking? Are you making a difference while you have time on earth, and preparing the imprint you’re going to leave? If you haven’t up to this point, it’s never too late for a fresh start with fresh faith. Consider the shape of your dash, and how you can intentionally change your impact from birth to death.

What is your dash? Most people struggle with why on earth they exist. Do you know what you are meant to do? And are you doing it?

Reshaping your dash is an intentional evaluation of how you’re living your life, andexploring ways you can make subtle changes to enact huge differences. Who doesn’t want to transform their everyday from mediocrity to meaning?

  • All of our lives are shaped by a dash, but not all dashes are shaped the same.
  • Your reason for existing is as unique as your DNA and fingerprint.
  • Your unique fingerprint exists so you can leave a unique imprint no one else can leave.
  • The heartbeat of living is to discover your special talents, and do something with them.
  • Every day is a gift offered to help you reshape your dash, and influence the dashes of others.
  • Open the presence of adventure.
  • Unwrap the gift of serving others.
  • Cherish the presence of your relationships.
  • Accept the gift of child’s play.
  • Identify the people, places, and things impacted by how you live out your dash.
  • If you don’t intentionally shape your dash — you may regret the mark it leaves.
  • Whether you carry the title or not, you are a leader. Engage with intentional leadership.
  • Will you open your gifts, and share them with the world?

Unearth your passions and talents. On podisode #16 of Engaging Life and Leadership, Darren Dake and Anita Brooks talk about the difference you were created to make, and offer practical ways to help you unearth your talents and passions.

You were created on purpose, with purpose, to fulfill a purpose. But are you living your life that way? On their podcast, Darren and Anita explore the questions and how-to’s in a quest most people grapple with.

Considering your regrets. Listen in as Anita and Darren review the five regrets expressed by those nearing death, and talk about preventing them, before it’s too late.

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish I had let myself be happier.

Check out these books. Also, don’t forget to check out Anita’s book, First Hired, Last Fired — How to Become Irreplaceable in Any Job Market, and Darren’s book, Unrighteous today.

If you could write a note to your younger self, what would you say? 

 

Lessons I Learned about Writing on the Walking Trail

Lessons I Learned about Writing on the Walking Trail


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“So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord. Remember the great reward it brings you! Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that he has promised” (Heb. 10:35-36 NLT).

 

As I climbed the very first hill on an asphalt trail near my home, my heart raced. I resisted the temptation to sit down at first. And by the time I made it to the top of that hill, I felt like I’d been walking over an hour. As I plodded on, in pain, the trail leveled. But I continued to struggle with each new hill.

 

Since I carried my camera, I paused several times to capture an interesting shot along the way. I only intended to walk for about 30 minutes. But when I checked the time, I discovered an hour had passed.

I learned some things about myself on the walking trail that day that apply to the other areas of my life, including my writing life.

Interested in hearing about the five lessons that I learned on the walking trail about endurance?

Check out my post today on the StoryWriting Studio!

How do you endure setbacks in your writing life? Tell us how you overcame your setbacks in the comment space below.

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